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Handout #285: How We Beat Ourselves . . .

How We Beat Ourselves . . .

Watching the National Clay Courts tennis tournament in Chicago recently, I saw a player come within one point of winning his match.  He lost the crucial point, and his opponent finally came from far behind to win the match.

From where I sat, it seemed clear to me that the player who had lost had really beaten himself.  His game was at least as good as his opponent’s:  his strokes were clean, his footwork agile, his strategy sensible.  But it was his own temperament that finally broke him.

When he lost a point, he blamed himself.  On a close decision, he scowled darkly at the umpire.  When the breaks went against him, he forgot that his opponent had bad breaks, too.  He was an unattractive personality.

It has been my unwavering observation over the years that 90 percent of us beat ourselves.  Nobody else does it to us.  We beat ourselves in various ways – by too much confidence, or by too little; by too much pessimism when things look good.

A Common Trait.  The one trait that all great and consistent winners have is an absence of the “Blameworthy” sense.  They do not put when others are at fault, and they do not rage at themselves when they are at fault.

Occasionally, they may be beaten; but they never beat themselves.  And over the long hall, they win more often than they lose – and they win in many cases by simply allowing their opponents to beat themselves.

Why nature gives an equable temperament to some and not to others is a mystery we can never solve.  But I am convinced that it is temperament, more than talent or brains, that determines whether we are self-fulfilling or self-destroying.  the difference between one champion and another may be trifling in terms of pure ability; it maybe vast in terms of spirit.

We hear a great deal about the so-called “killer instinct” in champions; and that the reason one failed to reach the ultimate goal was his lack of this killer instinct.

All this means, I think, is that in the ultimate crisis the real champion forgets himself entirely, and concentrates with passionate ferocity upon his object.  In the Zen term, “the archer, the arrow, and the target are one.”  The “near champion” never forgets himself, never subdues himself to the object, never truly subordinates himself to the game.

It is not the instinct to kill or even conquer, but the instinct for perfection so exquisite in itself that it obliterates the man who is achieving it.  He is beyond praise, beyond blame, beyond all our sublunary ambitions.  He does not beat himself, for he does not fight himself, rather, he forgets himself in an almost holy manner.

—  Sydney J. Harris, Staff Writer, Chicago Daily News

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For a .pdf file of this original Coach Bacevich Handout, click here: Handout #285: How We Beat Ourselves.  Coach Bacevich gave binders of his motivational handouts to thousands of people. You should print this original Coach Bacevich Handout together with the others in each weekly post and start your binder of these motivational handouts. Then read and browse the material as you desire. Soon you will have a treasure of information at your fingertips whenever you need a little inspiration and motivation from the Coach as you pursue your aspirations!

Many of Coach Bacevich’s Handouts were written for his football players as the audience. This is an example of good information written for his football players but so very applicable in all of life, sports and otherwise. When you see the phrase “football player” or “athlete”, substitute that phrase with whatever fits your situation, such as Employee, Team Member, Hockey Player, Basketball Player, etc.

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Handout #284: The Greatest Champions React to Defeat in a Positive Way Learning from Failure

The Greatest Champions React to Defeat in a Positive Way Learning from Failure

There are times when the ability to learn from failure is a great tactic.  Olympic Decathlon Champion Rafer Johnson develops the point:  ” The most enjoyment I had in the past was not always winning:  what gave me the biggest thrill was the way I reacted when I was beaten – what I thought about and how I came back from defeat.  To my mind, the great champions are the ones who are able to react to defeat in a positive way.  I’d much rather climb into the head of someone who’s lost and see what made that person come back to be a victor, than climb into the head of a winner.  You can probably learn more from the failures rather than the successes of others.  That somebody wins all the time does not necessarily mean they are successful.”

Fudoshim

Immovable Mind — It is a mind totally committed to facing any fate or circumstance life throws at you with calm composure.

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There is only the one purpose of the present moment.

To defeat the enemy who comes leaping at you, your spirit must be perfectly poised.

No matter what it is, there is nothing you cannot overcome.

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THE FOCUSED MIND CAN PEIRCE THROUGH STONE.

© {BCB}

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For a .pdf file of this original Coach Bacevich Handout, click here: Handout #284: The Greatest Champions React to Defeat in a Positive Way Learning from Failure.  Coach Bacevich gave binders of his motivational handouts to thousands of people. You should print this original Coach Bacevich Handout together with the others in each weekly post and start your binder of these motivational handouts. Then read and browse the material as you desire. Soon you will have a treasure of information at your fingertips whenever you need a little inspiration and motivation from the Coach as you pursue your aspirations!

Many of Coach Bacevich’s Handouts were written for his football players as the audience. This is an example of good information written for his football players but so very applicable in all of life, sports and otherwise. When you see the phrase “football player” or “athlete”, substitute that phrase with whatever fits your situation, such as Employee, Team Member, Hockey Player, Basketball Player, etc.

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Handout #283: 17 Secrets to Success

17 Secrets to Success

  1. Keep your temper to yourself.
  2. Give your enthusiasm to everybody.
  3. Be yourself, forget yourself, become genuinely interested in the other guy.
  4. Be fair, honest, friendly and you’ll be admired and liked.
  5. Make others feel important.
  6. Count your assets and stamp out self pity.
  7. Meet the other person at his/her level.
  8. Put your smile power to work.
  9. Keep moving.
  10. Keep trying.
  11. Give the gift of heart.
  12. Get off to a good start in anything you do.
  13. Forgive yourself if you fail.
  14. Be lavish with kindness.
  15. Overwhelm people with charm, not your power.
  16. Keep your promises.
  17. Be an optimist.

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It Ain’t braggin’ if you’ve done it.”

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Make Something Happen

You come out of a meeting and someone asks, “What Happened?”

And you answer, “Nothing”.

You sit in a legislative gallery and someone sits down besides you and asks, “What Happening?”

and you say, “Nothing.”

Maybe that meeting room and that gallery should have had the same sign hanging on their walls that

–so the story goes–

A college football coach pasted in his teams’ lockers”

“Cause something to happen”.

He believed that if you didn’t make something happen with a good block, your runner would go nowhere–

And if you didn’t tackle, the other team would run all over you.

He sure caused something to happen.

He won more college games than any other coach.

Bear Bryant

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If you have tried to do something and FAILED, you are vastly better off than if you had tried to do nothing and SUCCEEDED.

A successful person if one who went ahead and did the thing the rest of us never quite got around to.

© {BCB}

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For a .pdf file of this original Coach Bacevich Handout, click here: Handout #283: 17 Secrets to Success. Coach Bacevich gave binders of his motivational handouts to thousands of people. You should print this original Coach Bacevich Handout together with the others in each weekly post and start your binder of these motivational handouts. Then read and browse the material as you desire. Soon you will have a treasure of information at your fingertips whenever you need a little inspiration and motivation from the Coach as you pursue your aspirations!

Many of Coach Bacevich’s Handouts were written for his football players as the audience. This is an example of good information written for his football players but so very applicable in all of life, sports and otherwise. When you see the phrase “football player” or “athlete”, substitute that phrase with whatever fits your situation, such as Employee, Team Member, Hockey Player, Basketball Player, etc.

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Handout #282: A Mother’s Day Letter

A Mother’s Day Letter

Although I may not be a poet or a good writer, you should know that I would like to show my love and deep appreciation to you in this, your special day.

The things you do for me may seem of little importance, but to me they are of great importance because they show you care.  Sometimes I may forgot to say “thank you” when you do a favor for me; but, Mother, please remember I am only human.  The biggest favor you did for me was to bring me into the word, and I am in deep gratitude to you for this big decision.

I hope you were happy when you decided to have me because I know that I enjoy this life that you, Dad and Almighty God gave me.  I will try to the best of my abilities to make you proud of your little boy who is slowly growing into a Christian gentlemen just as you had dreamed.

So, Mother, I hope this letter of my deepest thoughts is gift enough for you, on this special day.  — Ken Ungruhe

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Oh Wonderful Man . . .

Oh wonderful man.  Oh intelligent creature – brilliant, creative – Your very best feature.

You fly ’round the moon with apparent great ease.  So, why toss your underwear wherever you please?

You provide for your families, sometimes the best.  But you can’t make a sandwich without making a mess.

You learn as young boys these traits of a man, let Mom pick it up whenever you can.

Women tolerate these things and could learn not to frown.  Only flush the damn toilet and put the seat down.

— A Frustrated Housewife.

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ST. IGNATIUS – To give and not count the cost; to fight and not heed the wounds; to toil and not to seek for rest; to labor and not ask for reward save knowing that we do Thy will.

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St. Francis of Assissi — The Devil exults most when he can steal a man’s joy of spirit from him.  he carries a powder with him to throw into any smallest possible chinks of out conscience, to soil the sportlessness of our mind and the purity of our life.  But when spiritual joy fills our hearts, the Serpent pours out his deadly poison in vain.

Overheard Recently — A Catholic priest received a letter from a friend of his, also a priest.  The friend, a native Virginian, mentioned that he had been tormented by inner conflict over the upcoming basketball game between Notre dame Fighting Irish and the University of Virginia Cavaliers.  In conclusion, he wrote:  “Crush ’em, cavaliers!”  And in parentheses, he added”  “Forgive me, but blood is thicker than Holy Water.”

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For a .pdf file of this original Coach Bacevich Handout, click here: Handout #282: A Mother’s Day Letter. Coach Bacevich gave binders of his motivational handouts to thousands of people. You should print this original Coach Bacevich Handout together with the others in each weekly post and start your binder of these motivational handouts. Then read and browse the material as you desire. Soon you will have a treasure of information at your fingertips whenever you need a little inspiration and motivation from the Coach as you pursue your aspirations!

Many of Coach Bacevich’s Handouts were written for his football players as the audience. This is an example of good information written for his football players but so very applicable in all of life, sports and otherwise. When you see the phrase “football player” or “athlete”, substitute that phrase with whatever fits your situation, such as Employee, Team Member, Hockey Player, Basketball Player, etc.

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